I've had three clients come to me from a story I told about my past.
"I came to you because you were where I am now and I need help."
People come to me for weight loss and thoughts around weight loss. They come to me when they feel lackluster, no motivation, stuck, sad, scared, fearful of future decisions and don't know what to do.
Do you know why they come?
Because fear ran my life and I gained weight by stuffing my fear down with sugar, carbs and negative thoughts.
When your coping mechanism aka food is no longer there, the fear gets BIGGER. "WHAT?! NOW I HAVE TO DEAL WITH MY EMOTIONS!?" Weight is mental. It is emotional. It is depressing. It is worth celebrating. Weight consumes your thoughts. It makes you go nuts. It rules your life. Until you understand why food is there and until you do, the way you think about food will include thoughts of shame and guilt.
Food is on our table for nourishment, for joy, for connection, for ooooo's and ahhhh's. Food is supposed to be something wonderful that we can enjoy together. We are supposed to use food to cook and hold hands around a table before we dig in to a meal that was prepared with love.
In session 1 during the Fearful to Fit Girl Program, I'm asking clients to draw their food story. It is powerful. It releases emotions. My clients get to speak about what they draw and sometimes I can see the light bulb go off. They start realizing that weight gain happens for a reason and it's a deep one. It's an issue so deep down that it takes some serious digging to get to the bottom.
It's a root issue - not something that can be cured or fixed with a meal plan. We must talk about emotions around food and figure out how to change the fear around gaining weight and food choices. CONTROL is a word that comes up a lot.
"I feel so out of control."
"I feel like I can control my nutrition unless dessert or chips is in front of me."
"I control everything else in my life, food is the only thing I can't control."
The story you continually tell yourself about the relationship you have with food is going to propel you to make changes or stay the same.
When I'm in a group of people and we're eating a meal, I hear, "J, You are so controlled with your eating habits! WOW!"
I have never felt the word control and food go together in my healthy lifestyle. When I had an eating disorder, the word CONTROL dominated my every move.
What I have now is the power to imagine how I'll feel after eating. If I don't envision energy after a snack/food I usually don't eat it. Cookies no longer taunt me. Bread isn't a big issue, it doesn't have the attractive quality it used to. If I feel like having a piece I am always reminded that I'm not missing out on much.
So, what story do you tell yourself?
Fearful to Fit
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