Remember when you were little and someone taught you how to tie your shoes? Or how about the time you left your room with the bed unmade, was someone there to teach you the way? Tying your shoes + tidying your bed are necessary things to learn. But when does the guidance stop? Do you still do everything your parents/guardians tell you to do? When do you put your foot down and let them know that you no longer need their help?
There's been times when I've thought, "Not a big deal - let them do this for you...you have years ahead to do the adult things."
And then there are times when you are being told what to do and who to choose and the most annoying question ever, "are you going to wear that?"
I find myself holding onto this rage. This feeling in my belly that feels like fire as I hear myself saying, "okay, sounds good." When my head is screaming "NOOOOOOOOO! FOR THE LAST TIME NOOOOOO!!!!" Do you do that at work? Or with people you respect?
We are in a world where people think too much. They are left in paralysis of decision making.
In the land of opportunity - there are too many people telling you how to find success, your dream job or to make more money. Workshops on becoming a better yoga teacher, improving your practice or learning how to journal. Free webinars on learning the techy side of a business. How to take THIS and make it into THAT.
How do you decide what to do?
Here's what works for me. I write. I talk with friends. I walk outside. I go to group fitness classes. I read. I sit or lay for a few minutes and ask myself what the hell do I want? Am I truly going to be happy if I choose this or that? How do I solve such an annoying problem without letting my anger get the best of me? How do I communicate what I'm feeling in a kind and loving way when I really just want to stomp my feet and scream WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING!?
My advice for you: Do YOU. In every sense of that statement. DO YOU.
Don't worry about who will be upset. If something is so important that it is dragging down your spirit - fight for YOU. No one else around will be happy until you are, so do what you need to do. Break up with your boyfriend. Tell someone how you feel. Change jobs. Create something beautiful. Look in a recipe book and give it a go. Even if it turns out horribly, you did it. You took your life into your own hands, made a decision + that my friends is called being bold, daring and courageous.
Live like a firefighter - run towards the fire every once in a while. Save the people who are trapped. Answer calls you don't want to. Do something selfless because it feels good.
But most importantly, DO YOU!