Do you self sabotage? Right before you are successful in your job or at your "perfect" weight, do you undo all the hard work? I think some of us feel guilty about reaching a certain level of success. When I lost 20+ pounds 3 years ago I found myself downplaying my weight loss when friends showed me any love. I felt my shoulders crumble forward, my voice get quieter and I would move onto the new topic very quickly.
I've noticed in the past 3 weeks I have been eating more and moving less. My guy likes to tell me that it's in my head, but I tell him, if it's in my head, why are my pants tighter and the scale says it too?
But, I know WHY and I am okay with it. I am stressed. And I am finding that in stressful situations, I do not do well. I thought I thrived in a sea of chaos, something I told employers during interviews, but truth be told, I need quiet, tranquility and beauty in my work atmosphere.
Speaking of work, an old injury is rearing its ugly head which I believe is the root cause for this stress. I broke my right foot and ankle as a senior in college in 2007 and required surgery to fix my Shrek foot. It's what, 10 years later and I believe the screws are starting to come out which is causing me tremendous pain when I walk or sit for too long and try to get up. Not a good thing for a full time fitness instructor.
Questions swirl in my head at lightning speed about the future and my upcoming wedding. Will I be in pain as I walk down the aisle? Will I be able to dance? What if my foot locks up and I can't walk? What if I have to get surgery before the wedding and I gain weight? What if I gain enough weight that the dress doesn't fit? DAMN! Do you feel me? The stress I am experiencing isn't made up or created for a cheap thrill. The struggle is real.
The first step in addressing self sabotage is to think about the WHY. WHY is it happening? Are the reasons legit? How do you stop it? What are the baby steps you will take to make sure this little self sabotaging spree doesn't take over and cause long term pain?
1. Write about it.
2. Tell you friends and family how you are feeling.
3. Go for a walk.
4. Read articles about people going through the same thing.
5. Get a good book.
6. Sit with your pain and think about possible positive outcomes.
7. Remind yourself that this is part of your journey.
Ya know the awesome thing about this injury and stress? I get to focus more on what I truly love, which is being a Health Coach. I can do that in any part of the world, I can do that by phone or Skype.
I read recently that the average person makes 5,000 decisions per day. Isn't that crazy!? What decisions will you make today to disable your self sabotage?
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