I'm 12 years old and we've just moved from Florida to Seattle. I'm sitting on my bed and my Mom keeps telling me to "know my worth." I mutter a "GOD OKAY MOM," while walking away. I didn't even understand what that meant. And I don't think you fully understand that phrase until you feel worthless.
There are a few times I remember being at the bottom of the barrel with depression, anxiety + an eating disorder. I don't want to go into details because a handful of people in my life know about my food struggles and until I'm ready to open up, I'd like to keep it that way.
Know your worth. What the hell does that mean? Well, I can tell you if we're relating worth to jobs. And if you've ever been treated unfairly by a boss or co-worker, you have two choices. One, you can cry to yourself in the bathroom, wipe your tears and come out with a smile. OR, you can tell the idiot who downgraded your worth that you will not tolerate that kind of behavior and if it continues, you and your gorgeous soul will go elsewhere. Knowing your worth helps when you are determining a fair salary or hourly rate. FOR YEARS + I MEAN PROBABLY UNTIL LAST YEAR, I accepted jobs at a lower rate because I felt bad for people. I didn't want to charge anyone for my services because I wanted to help. Ya know what happened to me? I didn't have any money.
As a teenage or college age girl, knowing your worth comes in REALLY handy and will save you in so many situations if you use what you know. I wish I knew my worth back then, it would've saved me so many trips down break up or depression lane. I dated a really sad soul in college. Someone who showed me a suicide note as he cried. I was a mess myself, trying to figure out my own life and what made me happy and what I wanted to do after I graduated, but I put all my issues on hold to help him. My grades suffered and I was scared that if I broke up with him, (which I planned on doing before he showed me the note) he would take his life. Knowing my worth back than would've meant calling his parents, professional help and anyone who had better experience in helping him solve his emotional issues. My grades wouldn't have suffered and I would've graduated on time, (which means so little in comparison to what was going on).
I also wouldn't have "dated" so many assholes/players. So many guys who thought I was a piece of meat. I didn't know my worth. I didn't know how beautiful + wounded + vulnerable I was and how much damage would be left after a few bad decisions.
I SOOOOO hope you are reading this if you are in a "what does know my worth mean" stage or "you know you're worth but you're putting up with crap and it's time to make a change" stage. As long as you keep waking up, you keep starting over with changes to make life better. To become more self-aware and to one day, truly know.your.worth.
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